During these unprecedented and challenges times, more than ever we need to focus on helping ourselves to improve our resilience and coping strategies so we can deal with this uncertainty and significant changes to our usual routines.
Here is how you might disempower yourself and make yourself believe that you can’t cope with your life.
1. You avoid thinking about or acknowledging your thoughts and emotions. If you can’t accurately identify what worries you and how you feel about the situation, how can you change it?
2. You believe that you are hopeless. While the situation might be challenging, it is always important to encourage yourself to find the skills and abilities within yourself to make some changes to improve your situation.
3. You blame others or yourself. It is all someone’s fault or you should have foreseen what was coming. Not many people could predict the changes that followed the advance of the pandemic.
4. You might be panicking or freezing, or becoming uncaring or indifferent. When we react to a challenge as if it is a disaster or the end of the world, or we don’t care at all about the changes or feel that we are stuck, it makes it difficult for us to take steps towards managing the challenge appropriately.
5. You might have been stuck on “What happened?” Something caught you by surprise, so now you need to determine what you need to do to start helping yourself to improve your circumstances. Of course, it is appropriate to understand what went wrong; however, be careful to not get stuck there. If the cheese is gone, don’t sit there and wonder, start searching.
So what do you need to do instead?
1. Acknowledge the problem and start using critical thinking to better help yourself deal with this situation moving forward. Yes, something happened, i.e., COVID-19, and it turned your life upside down. What do you need to do now to help yourself? If you lost your job or are being stood down, do you need to write all your expenses down and call your bank, your car lease services, Centrelink, accountant, etc.?
2. Accept the thoughts and feelings and consider a compassionate step toward a resolution. These are unprecedented times, and as you experience adjustment and challenges you might experience sadness, anger, and frustration. Some people have lost their jobs, gotten sick, had to reschedule weddings, lost promotions, or worse. It is only natural that you will experience different feelings and thoughts. Don’t deny, suppress or battle them. Accept the feelings and thoughts and use compassion and mindfulness as you consider the next step to help yourself to deal with this challenging situation.
3. Use appropriate calming techniques and strategies. If you give in to panic and fear, you soon find yourself being overwhelmed and frustrated and unable to concentrate on what you need to do to improve your situation. Use mindfulness, meditation and body scans as well as positive creative techniques and strategies to improve your concentration and focus.
No matter how challenging the situation might be, be careful and don’t disempower yourself. Help yourself to improve your coping strategies. These skills will help you in different areas of your life. If you require further support, do not hesitate to call us at 0403 866 997 or email us to schedule a session.