On the weekend, I picked up the Sydney Morning Herald and came across an article by Michael Chammas -“Angry Kyrgios seeking help”.
Luckily for Nick Kyrgios, according to the article, he recognised that he was no longer able to control his anger and needed help. As a result, he started work with a sports psychologist to address this issue.
Even if you are not an athlete, you may have recognised that anger issues are affecting your career, health, relationships or your future prospects. Don’t wait until you hit rock bottom to get help.
So when is your anger a serious problem in your life?
- When you shout, intimidate or threaten people
- When you push, hold or hit someone
- When you destroy your own or another person?s property
- When you cannot control your impulsive anger
- When the expression of your anger is destructive and leads to ruined relationships
- When you have sabotaged your career progression because of your aggressive behaviour
- When you experience legal troubles because your anger.
These are only some of the situations that highlight that you are really struggling to control your anger.
Of course it is your responsibility to manage your behaviour at all times; however, it is important to understand what makes it harder for you to do so. Several factors might have an impact on your ability to control yourself; these are:
- Lack of resources (such as: little free time, feeling rushed, lacking sleep or a long commute time)
- Alcohol and drugs
- Mental Illness (such as: some symptoms of depression include irritability or restlessness)
- Adjustments and loss (such as: losing a job, marriage breakdown or prolonged illness)
- Financial difficulties
- Being abused, experiencing injustice or unfairness.
And the list can continue and many people might list some factors that are unique to them. These factors do not excuse aggressive behaviour; however, by better understanding them you will be able to help yourself to create an environment where you are not as vulnerable and can focus on building resilience and helping yourself control your behaviour at all times.
Don’t sabotage your own ‘Australian Open’, learn to control you behaviours at all times and manage your emotions effectively.
When you decide that you are tired of dealing with the consequences of your aggression visit www.impulsivity.net and learn about the online program ‘Master your impulsive behaviour to get what you really want’.
Ultimately, you can only control your behaviour. Everything else is not fully up to you. Help yourself to grow stronger and manage your impulses the best you can. Email help@impulsivity.com.au to enquire about the program.
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